“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”
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WRITERS' FRIENDSHIPS Edited and compiled by Robert Sward Beyond Cats and Chocolate: Two Writers Learn through Friendship and Work by Suki Wessling
I met Penny Cagan at the Vermont College Post-Graduate Writers
Conference.
It was the first conference---or workshop, for that matter---that had
attracted me for years. My last writing group had descended into
psychotherapy on the cheap---"What does this story say about Suki's
relationship with her mother?"---rather than real critique. But I
hoped that
this conference would be different. At least, I assumed, there would
be no
beginning writers there who would ask what point of view was.
I was a fiction writer at the time. I was suspicious of poetry and
poets.
The former because I'd been taught very badly in high school that
poetry was
"serious," and I'd taken refuge in fiction, which could be "fun" as
well as
meaningful. The latter because MFA programs seem to foster this mutual
suspicion, in spite of the many cross-over writers who are among our
greats.
There was a poet in my fiction workshop at Michigan, and without fail
she
was critiqued with a sort of patronizing pity---"her images are
beautiful,
but the plot doesn't hold together."
So there I was in Vermont, in the middle of a room where everyone
seemed to know each
other. For the most part, they did. Most of the students were former
MFA
grads of the college. There were chairs set up for a reading. Sitting
alone
in a sea of empty chairs was a striking woman in black. "I have always
felt like a head without a body," was one of the first things she said
to
me. Then we found out that we both had beloved cats, and loved
chocolate.
Not much more is needed for a friendship.
What grew from my friendship with Penny, however, has been much more
than
girlish chats (we've had many of those), support through hard times (I
think
we rate well there, too), and loyal enthusiasm for what the other is
doing.
Penny introduced me---again---to poetry. This time, the right way.
Penny's
love of poetry is deep and instinctive. She can keep up with the best
of
them in literary analysis, but when you ask her what she likes in a
poem,
she tells it from the soul. She's introduced me to some of my favorite
poets, suggested I read others I didn't care for. In every case, I've
learned from her long love affair with poetry.
Early on in our friendship, when I had a small graphic design
business, I
confided in Penny that I'd always had the dream of starting a
publishing
company. "Then you'll publish my first book," she said
matter-of-factly. It
seemed silly to me---she'd been published in many fine journals and
had a
growing reputation. Why have a novice publisher put out her book? But
I
thought it would be fun, so we put together a chapbook of what I
called her
"city poems"---her work that reflected her great love of New York
City. It
was a great thrill and also instructive---never again will I hand-bind
250
copies of a book with a rivet gun!
I assumed that Penny would go on to publish with a larger publisher,
as I
made plans to go forward with my small company. She did, in fact,
start
working with a very well-known publisher on her book, but she felt
that her
work was just getting lost in a large bureaucracy. Once again, she
came to
me to publish her work. I was honored but also wary of the
responsibility. I
warned her that I wouldn't be able to get the distribution that the
large
company would have, that the Chatoyant name on a book would mean
nothing to
people who didn't know her work. But she had loved the intimate
process of
her first book so much, that she convinced me it was the way she
wanted to
go.
Penny's book And Today I Am Happy is now on Chatoyant's list,
and doing
well. Penny is still working and living in New York City. I am now a
mother
of a small child (with another on the way) and going on with my
publishing. Our friendship
thrives. I
know that my relationship with other authors will probably not be one
founded first on friendship, but I hold my relationship with Penny as
an
example of how writers can work together, teach each other, and also
be
friends. Penny has never let any professional disagreement we might
have get
in the way of our friendship, and I continue to learn from her and
enjoy her
company---whether we're talking about writing and publishing or
cuddling
with our cats and a good cup of hot cocoa!
BIO NOTE:
Suki Wessling is a writer and publisher of Chatoyant, a small poetry press. Her work has been published in a variety of
literary journals, and she has a great stash of rejected novels on her hard
drive.
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